Beauty and Martinis.....Fashion,Drinks and Convo

 Today the best thing you can do for yourself is nip and tuck to be "perfect".  Let's be real, we all thought about the perfect appearance we want. That goes from the look on the face or the look of the body if not a combination.  We are our own critics and in the worst way possible. I have fallen victim to looking at myself and wanting to make changes to look prettier and feel sexier. Self-love isn't an easy task to complete, keep going or better yet start.  I recently underwent Liposuction 360. This procedure is removal of fat from the midsection. This consist of the waist, upper and lower back, under arm (bra area for women) and the fupa area. I also added upper arm liposuction. Hitting a certain age, women see the imperfection in ourselves and try to fix it all to look how did in the past.  Being forty, I see all my imperfections and want to fix everything. However, i am not the surgery type lol. I went through my procedure, and I am incredibly happy with wh...

Imagine going through life out of place and in hiding.... then finally , you find out your last days are approaching and you want to come clean.. so you finally tell your story Hulu has a series called Black Cake that is so good beauties. This story focus on a woman who was born  Coventina “Covey” Lyncook, an Afro-Chinese Caribbean girl escapes the tragedies she endured in the United Kingdom by using her absent mother’s maiden name, Brown.  As she continues to run from her past, she experiences even more hardships and leaves her no choice but to adopt another name, Eleanor Douglas, which she uses until she changes her surname when she marries.   Eleanor leaves behind 3 children, 2 who grew up together and one that was left for adoption due to an unfortunate circumstance. Eleanor left recording behind detailing every aspect of her life and to make a mend of her past.  The Black Cake was left in the freezer by Eleanor was to bring them [her children] together as a fami...

Let us dwell on how 2023 (well honestly since 2020) has been one of the hardest years to regroup and adjust on life. Everything we all have witnessed on television or the blogs have made us stronger, opinionated and stick together in some form. However, I will say 2023 gave us  the gift of reality to ourselves in full form (whether we admit that or not) as well as the chance to see, hurt and heal. I believe 2023 made us stronger as a person in overcoming something that has weighed us down. So, with that being said, 2024 we are ready to receive and live differently. We are open to the endless opportunities of prosperity, abundant grace, great relationships, drinks and fashion.  I would sum this up in the words of Destiny Child "We are Survivors,...We not go Stop.. We go Grind harder."  Living life to the fullest, allowing the past to be learning blocks, appreciation of what is meant to be without always being a negative reason.  Everything is positive. Love is in the ...

 Heauxphase is a series that is on the UrbanFlix.  This series has America on a choke hold right now. The show gives off freedom, displacement, struggle, selfish gain, toxic masculinity, feminism but also toxic feminism, fear, mental instability, effective parenting, unbroken chains, emotional barriers, and emotional controlling to name a few.  Heauxphase speaks on three young women who are navigating through life on their terms of sexual dominance, sexual control but with some hard consequences that no one think of until it happens.   Let's speak on the characters:  Melanie: came from a broken family (line of Hoes as her grandmother day). Young, vocal liberated outspoken without a sense of respect to give but demands respect. She seduces her stepdad, lies about her age, and then becomes pregnant. After her stepdad finds out the truth, he commits suicide and leaves misinformed Melanie with a son to raise and no help from her family or his. But how her mom a...

I grabbed my tumbler filled with my favorite wine! I put on my loose my most sexiest dress. I put my lashes on and my contacts.  Grab my sunglasses and walk to my car. The heat is aggressive but it's a slight turn on due to showing authority and showing strength. As I turn on my car, I prepare my radio for some 90s  R n B. My YouTube account, call my girls and say "Bitches, I am on my way" on our FaceTime call.  I sing to the top of my lungs and at the red light I roll my window down and  turn to my left and turn to my right and wave at the haters as they look at me as if I'm crazy! Blast my music and as I hit the freeway, my moment of freedom was knowing that small amount of self-love was everything and I actually did it! Regardless of what is going on around you, smiles, block out the negative and ride the strip, but don't drink and drive.  Enjoy life and do what makes you happy.  Love Beauty 💋

Ladies and Gentlemen  The time has come for us to step out like no other. Go into your closet, pick out your favorite outfit and spray your cologne or perfume. Ladies grab the glossiest lip gloss and shades, hop in your car (seat belt, safety first), and play that album that make you feel sexy and liberated and ride. Fellas crack those windows and position yourself right in the driver seat and coast.  Go to a day party, scope the room and vibe. Allow the scene to speak to you and move you. The starter drink selection will give off the type of person you are presenting.  1. Shots: fun, energetic and like to party  2. Fruity cocktails: flirty, will be in the scene a while and a people person. 3. Mixed Single drink: smooth, want to be seen and acknowledge 4. Hard Cocktails: aggressive, coping or hiding.  Whatever your drink may be, live life to the fullest and responsibly. Enjoy day by day and vibe!

 Happy New Year Bitches!!!!! It's 2023, we all made our resolutions and rants, but how much are we going to commit too? This is the month of February and honestly, have we stuck to our word or naw? I have made it clear in my mind that I am not going to say what I will or will not do, but more if just doing it. It is so easy to fall off the to-do list. Some will say you cannot commit to anything; some say you put more on your plate than you can handle.  I say, live this year with no regrets. Allow yourself to live free, be free, think free, react freely, release freely, feel freely and most of all DO IT ON YOUR TERMS. By dictionary.com, FREE is /fre/ not or no longer confined or imprisoned. This definition can be understood by not being held back or held down. This goes for mental, emotions, toxic relationships, your past, or just you vs. you.  We will be FREE in 2023, no matter what it takes. If you do not stand for something, then the outcome will always be nothing....

Are You Ready? We are ending 2022 (which seems so quick) and preparing for 2023. Allow this current year 2022 to be just that. We have endured our share of pain, smiles, unexplained reasonings, goals, start over and day to day life.  Social Media has completely taken over by helping to solved crimes, spread the gospel, analyze gossip on truth or fiction, shown fashion, drinks menu, great food ideas, v-logs, and among many other things, as well place us in your business.  As we end 2022, and our spiritual beings allow us to go to 2023, raise your glass to your smile, your love, your health, your passions and whatever may desire you to thrive. Embrace the troubled times and enhance the good times.  Let's agree to leave 2022 where it is, where it was and open yourself to the endless opportunity 2023 has in store.  Here are a few ideas that may help with enjoying 2023  1. Setting a Goal and put it into action  2. Learning a new hobby  3. Self-dates (spa da...

Sometimes life teaches us some lessons, we can either keep going to see the bigger picture or just fold.  We all experience life in some sort of way and tell stories, learn lessons, then pass on the experience so that our own children do not have to mimic our mistakes.  We all learn the difference between right and wrong, good, and bad and sometimes we don't follow those lessons.  For example, the most recent events have been the death of Shanquella Robinson. The protection was lost, and the love was gone.  This story has happened in so many ways with so many people. You think you have friends, but it turned out they were enemies. We all think we have some sort of love, and it was a lie.  As we get to know people, we should take our time, read their actions as well as their words, speak the truth and listen to our gut. It is ok to take your time on people and who enters your life. Life is too short to be shorthanded on life.  Rest in Love, Life and Peace Sh...

This is for anyone who lost themselves..I understand your pain.. You took my life when you left me to second guess myself. I continuously cried to ease the pain that you caused. I thought about which drugs to take and which ways to go just to ease the pain you selfishly did to me. You made me feel love was finally mine and then took it back just to see me drop.   You killed me.  You used my pain to build you up and tear me down like I was being taught a lesson. The options were to have no more fucks to give and after all this pain I will never find love or trust anyone again.  You killed me  I waited every day for you to come home and have your hugs, kisses and affection. To be held by you and for you to tell me you love me to my face.  But you killed me.  You took my smile and gave me tears. You took my soul leaving me lifeless as you lived your life. Over and over again today you killed me. But I stood my ground and woke up from the nightmare of lett...

I declare happiness,  I will forgive myself I will let go of my past and heal from my pain.  I will speak peace, walk in peace, heal in peace and embrace in peace I will declare harmony by claiming a clear mind in my path of freedom.  I will protect my heart so that I am able to think openly while walking in my path. I am open to receiving my destiny as I should be seen and as I see fit and not what others see for me!  I am a strong person who has faced my share of pain that I have overcome by taking everything one day at a time.  Brothers and Sisters you got this!!!  Breathe and lets do this with one foot in front of the other, you are not alone in this healing journey.  It is our time to shine Beauty 💋

The best feeling in life that you can give and receive is a smile. When someone adds to your smile that gives your smile a warm feeling. The smile you can give to yourself when you wake and stretch, even before you brush your teeth is the smile that counts. So, look at yourself and say I own my smile, I deserve my smile, I am my smile.  Nobody can take your smile, and no one can take away from your smile. If the person or people you are with make you lose your smile, then it is time to separate if not let them go.   That's all, carry on! Beauty 💋

Random Year Thoughts!!!!! Surviving this pandemic is a day struggle. Seeing a new day especially a new year is a blessing. Embrace this new freedom to survive the battle of you vs yourself. Being behind doors or on a small lockdown can bring mental hardships, emotional standings as well as a lot of doubts, fears and questions.  I have heard plenty of people say "Covid-19 will either bring families together or finally see the truth on people and separate what is not meant to be."  One thing for sure, a lot of drinking and “chilling” or having “kickbacks” has starting happening in the comfort of our own home. With this we have to be careful in spreading the virus as well as contracting the virus. However, embrace the measures of gaining self peace and perseverance.  We can't continue to keep a negative approach to what is going on. We can only change what we can control. And that my friend is all that matters. Beauty 💋

We all have this list of what we want in a mate, our circle, our job, extra curriculum and kids; in which the list can go on, but what does the list mean?  Does the list give off demands or standards? Does it insure me that I will get what I want or deserve? Or does this make me settle based off what society think we should want or deserve from people, places or objects? Look at me? What do you see? What do you not want to see? How do you see you? What do you not want to see about yourself?  Me vs You is what I ask myself everyday? I look and the mirror and see me based off what you see. I closed my eyes to see you because I can't stand to look at me. This is a battle we all face which can lead to me vs you and me vs me. They both explain the battle of self doubt, self love, self care, self improvement and self worth.  Allow yourself to challenge the inner you and perfect yourself in the image you see with your eyes closed.  Build you in your form not in society's fo...

The year is about to end, however, can you say you lived this year as if were your last. I'm sure some are still suffering from the pandemic. But as I have seen some act like a pandemic is not going on.  When Dec 31 come and we prepare with glamor and pictures and alcohol; lots of alcohol. When you wake up Jan 1, 2022 will you be happy how the year ended?  Battling Covid and slow income, my wish for everyone is to smile at your hard time, smile at your ok times and to smile at your best time. But to always smile. No matter your circumstances smile and make yourself look like a mlion bucks. Do not low the world to "look as you feel" and to feel like you can't handle your storm.  These best thing since Covid-19 has begun is learning to love you and live on your terms. 2021 may not have started or ended how you wanted, but if your reading this blog.. bitch you are on your way! Welcome to 2022!  Beauty 💋

How many times have you asked yourself why you love yourself? I'm pretty sure never!!! We never second guess ourselves on what matters. Sadly, we second guess others but never look in the mirror.  In our current life we have to second guess what we will allow, let go of, enter in, and mostly disturb your peace, stability, energy, vibes.  Why? At some point we can't play the fool to our self worth as well as what we deserve. Take a night, set the mood as in wine, candles, soft music and make a list of pros and Cons about yourself, major people in your life, goals, choices,future ambitions. Give yourself 90 days of self treatments. Make time for yourself with one weekend out the month just for you. Now, this can cost you nothing or cost you a lot depending upon your pockets (lol) but you are worthy babes.  To love yourself cost nothing, but doesn't mean it's free to others. It's OK to charge for your time; this isn't montery exchange either.  Charge for your emoti...

When people crossed paths, we always think of the reasoning instead of the appreciation. We look for every reason on why and how or when also maybe...We as humans never see the individual or the group of people coming in our life as a positive outlook. Sadly, the negative oversea it all. For instance, you see a beautiful sweater for the fall and winter session on sale in clearance but you overlook it due to it being a hot summer day. You can either 1 of 2 things; 1. loose out on a good deal by purchasing the sweater in the summer time or 2. Just except you came across a good looking piece of fabric.  We have to look at people and their value, their purpose like we do our drinks and fashion. Why I say this? Think about it, you will not just pick up any kind of dress without reason. You pick your drink for the moment you're in whether it is shot or a cocktail. You also pick your outfir out for the moment and not to just put on something.  Do not see never see a purpose of what h...

All my life I fought physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually on where I come from and who I am. It was very hard growing up fighting in life for survival from people that say they love me but hurt me in many ways. Took me a long time to love and accept me. Im not perfect and never placed myself to be. Im flawed but beautifuly flawed. I deal with shit and tried to move on, but it has been a rocky road when you are learning self love and self worth. Im loyal to those I shouldn’t have and have taken care of a lot since I was born but finally seen the devil at 3am.  NOBODY knew what I was going thru as a child or now. Everyone has answers on everyone shit but their own. People take you for granted and then cry or have attitudes when you call them out on their shit. So i don’t need the judgment nor the lies...I got shit to do and goals to accomplish... But I will snap if keep being pushed... the mind of a maniac is hard to tame.... so back up and let me breathe please and j...

The year 2020 has been a circus. We started off with life out of our control. But the question is, can you still be fashionable and comfortable in the house? Or is fashion just for the outdoors? I believe fashion can be seen and comfortable. This year isn't about being seen in person obviously; so why not let it be seen virtually in your own way. Take pictures and share on all social media avenues you can. Make videos with bright colors and enjoy a great drink to match.  Allow this time to be creative, free, open, be the most reflective you as possible. Let your creative fashion reflect a beautiful cocktail with all the personality you can.  Time to be free  Sip n Chill Beauty 💋 

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